Things I Learned These Past Weeks.

            Hey y'all!!! I know, I know. Its been weeks. I did not forget my blog. So much has been happening between visa stuff, my lack of internet and yes I do confess to laziness to type (I hate typing!). Oh and my hatred for MTN. The idiots (forgive my language) refused to allow me make phone calls or text or tweet!- Nothing at all. :(. Plus they have just been stealing my credit. Mschewww. Anyway, forgive my deviation. Basically, too much has gone on (a lot sha)... So I decided to pack it all into one post. This post is just all the stuff I've learned from my recent experiences *wipes sweat*. You may know some of these things or you might have even learned some of 'em yourself but, there's love in sharing. Hehe... so I'mma share mine.
- Expectation Postponed Is Making The Heart Sick: This is from Proverbs 13:12. It is sooo true! I experienced this while waiting for my visa. It was supposed to arrive Friday two weeks ago. After waiting the first two weeks, I got a call that it was gonna come Tuesday not Friday. I felt like I had been kicked in the stomach. :((. So I did what I do when I'm depressed- SLEEP. I slept myself into a migraine. *sigh* Omo! I had to change plans. Stop the excess sleep and just enjoy my last days in Nigeria. :). I did get my visa though! YAY!!! :D . Thank God.
   Lesson Learnt? : Never let yourself be crushed by disappointment especially about stuff you can't change.
-Distance Is Powerful: This was actually a very shocking revelation. I mean, I always knew that long distance stuff is never easy. But in my mind, I kinda assumed that's when you may not love someone enough, but guess what? I was wrong :(. Long distance is ALWAYS a bummer. For friends, family and anyone you genuinely care about who's away from you. I realized this last two weeks when two really close friends (yes I said two friends.. ask no questions! :p) were slowly growing apart. Well the great part is that they noticed and are slowly getting back on track. Distance either makes us miss people terribly or sadly just forget 'em.
   Lesson Learnt? : It's amazing what distance can do to our relationships. But as long as there's life,..and internet ;), there's hope.  (Just make sure MTN is not your service provider).
 -Life always goes on: Sadly/fortunately, depending on whether you're the ''forgotten'' or the ''forgetting'' one. Almost no one is irreplaceable unless we want 'em to be. It does not make us evil, but the truth is we can forget almost anyone... ALMOST!. Some people are simply unforgettable. They make such a difference/impact in our lives, we just cannot forget them. :). Some others just aren't unforgettable :-|. And some other others are just pros at forgetting people *sigh*. Then some other other others (yes, I said that B-|) remember you but NEVER call or text or try to keep in touch at all! *side eye*. I'm deviating again... Issokay.
 -Most Times In A Friendship, there's The Losing Friend and The Winning Friend: Okay, just read my explanation. Friendship is always a win-win situation, of course. But by my choice of words, what I'm trying to imply is that in most friendships (90%), there is that one friend who always checks up on the other(s). In large friendship groups, that friend holds the group together.. in other words is the 'glue'. It's not always rosy being this friend, hence the term ''losing''. However, this makes 'em the better friend. Despite this, we should learn to understand that everyone is not the same. Thus, we should be happy with whatever the other party brings (I don't mean you should settle oh!) as long as they're always there when you need them :).
            There you have 'em! Four things I've learned. I hope y'all have learned too. I want to thank all of you who've retweeted, commented, criticized, commended or sadly just read( yes I know you peepo *side eye*). I appreciate all of you :). Please make the best of lessons learned.
P.S I believe this is my longest post so far **dancing**. So I hope it was worth the wait! :D

Behind The Titanium

             Most of you know the 'Titanium' song by David Guetta. I do not know how many times I have listened to that song... I love it! I totally love the strength it gives me. I think David Guetta is a genius. So why the title of this post?. Okay, its like this... One night I was playing 'Titanium' and for some reason, I started thinking about this Mexican soap opera ''Rafaela''. Its basically about two people who like each other and are putting up strong fronts to say otherwise. I don't know if there's a relationship, but titanium can pretty much describe the girl's exterior in ''Rafaela''. However, she's all warm and mushy inside.
            What exactly is 'Titanium' to me? Personally, a person who says '' I Am Titanium'', to me should be just as the song says...and then some more, especially when people ''shoot you down'' or say hurtful things about you to try to ''cut you down''. However, I just want to add that being ''Titanium'' does not mean that you close yourself to love or build walls around yourself. It means that you are ''Titanium'' enough to allow yourself to love and to be loved and to trust and be trusted because as my friend (I'd like to think of her as my friend :)) Sonia would say, ''If you get hurt, its only pain and there's no gain without pain''. (Thank you Sonia).
            I have just one problem with that song. A part/line/phrase of it that says :
                                                        ''I have nothing to lose''.
What exactly does this mean? Usually, having nothing to lose is not a good thing. It means you have nothing to be ''Titanium'' for! #justsaying. Anyhow sha, I love the song! ^_^. Please, let us all try to be somewhat ''Titanium''. Let us not 'pretend' to be ''Titanium'' and cry at night because of something someone said or even allow ourselves to become upset by something someone does. I know, I know...  It's easier said than done (even for me) but it's not totally impossible. I know many ''Titaniums'' ;)

                                         I        AM        TITANIUM!!!!... :)

(P.S If you haven't,PLEASE listen to ''Titanium'' by David Guetta feat. Sia (http://en.dilandau.eu/download_music/titanium-david-guetta-1.html). This makes a lot more sense  after you have)


                                   

The Thing About Love Songs

                                I'm sure we've all wondered what it is about love songs. They have the power to make us feel. Somehow, listening to Celine Dion, Adele (I started listening to her oh) or even some of Beyonce's songs or Westlife, sha any love song can either make you sad, happy, sad or just lonley.
                                After careful thought and analysis (by yours truly..hehe), I was able to figure out three reasons why love songs appeal to us:
 - Love songs sympathize with us: They help us wallow in our loneliness. A friend of mine once said that love songs make people even more melancholy. However, we seem to feel better after such sadness from certain songs, probably because we have been helped to deal with our grief/sadness. We have been given some kind of therapy... a wallow partner.
 - We can relate to them: The joy of first love and the pain of first heartbreak are surely not foreign to us. Hence when we listen to songs that talk about these things, we can simply relate to them and we are thus happy to sing along or just listen.
 - They bring us hope that love still exists: When we hear/listen to love crooners tell us the beauty of falling in love, we just can't wait to 'fall' just so we can experience the phenomenon. As humans, we all like to believe that love exists because we are made in God's image and God is Love.
                                 I wrote this piece because many of us believe in love for the wrong reasons. Granted, we all love our celebrity couples (myself included), but the response to the rumor that Will and Jada Smith had split a few days ago was really saddening. Its amazing to think that some people believed that if the rumor was true, then love is dead :O. Like seriously????. GOD IS LOVE, and love continues to exist until He is no more which will NEVER happen!!!!. We all need to sit back and contemplate our reasons for believing in stuff.
      My point? Believe in Love, BUT for the right reasons.

My Mother

                       I don't know what this is supposed to be yet. A poem, an essay... I guess it will be a different thing to everyone who reads this. But it might end up being a mini-biography of the woman who has made and is making the greatest impact in my life, one of my best friends...my role model.
                      I'm not going to tell you her year of birth. However she is in her early forties. She grew up with very strict parents and worked with her family on their farm in the village where she grew up. My mum will tell you any day that she is a village woman and she's not ashamed of that (trust me she isn't anymore...lol). Yes, that's how she is-blunt. She went to a Federal Government college in Benue state and studied micro-biology in the University of Port harcourt. She married my dear father in 1994 and I was born the next year. My brother was born in 1998. She always wanted more children though...but as she says...''they never came''.
                     My mother is one of the kindest women you'll ever meet. I hope I can touch 1/4th of the lives she has touched so far in her beautiful life. M y father would tell you that if there is anything he is very sure of, it is his wife's love and support for him. She's kind of annoying to us kids especially when she says ''don't wear that'' or ''don't go out today'' or when she gives you a long to-do list of chores...lol. But we are sure of her love and I love her most of the time...lol. Did I mention that she gives the best advice? Yeah, she does.
                                                      SHE'S MY MUMMY!!! :)
                    The aim of this blog is not to say I have the best mother in the world (even though I do :p), because there are many great mums out there. It's to let y'all know where I come from and of course for you guys who don't, to appreciate your mothers and to tell them so!. Always remember that they are humans like you and of course they'll make mistakes. But in the end no woman could ever hate her own child-- They love you!!!

                             


This is for my mother Mrs Chido Stella Eme- Umesi.
I LOVE YOU MUM!!!

The Devil In My Home

                                                       He chases me in the fields
                                                       In the market,...
                                                       With all my vital force, I run in fright!
                                                       Faster than even my legs can carry me


                                                       Panting... Panting... Panting
                                                       I see my home
                                                       Sweet relief fills my soul
                                                       I slam my door shut... BANG!!
                                                     

                                                       The cool breeze of peace...
                                                       Overwhelming security...
                                                       Calm engulfs me!
                                                       I exhale...


                                                      Turning away from the door
                                                      Alas! There he is! The devil himself!
                                                      Struggling now I am
                                                      To leave my own home...


                                                      But trapped I am...
                                                      I charge towards him!!!
                                                      With the power the greater one gives
                                                      And to my greatest thrill... I am a conqueror!

                                                                     
                                                                              
                                                                            By Eme - Umesi Afoma

This is for Nnamdi (about you know who)...:)
                                                      

Friends With Benefits

                                          
               When I thought of my next post, many ideas popped into my head. This topic won over the rest because... its really gaining popularity and thinking now, I've never really expressed my opinion on it. Well, this is it. And just so you know, this is one person's opinion. :),
               Most of you reading this already know what 'friends with benefits' means. However, for those of you who don't (which would be strange :/), its basically, two people in a relationship in which they are friends but with the added 'privilege' of being able to do 'stuff' (you know what I mean jor!) with no strings attached. I've done my best to explain. If you still don't get it, then as T-pain said in 'kiss kiss' - 'you just aint gettin' it!!! :p.
              Okay, people who are, have been, or plan to be 'friends with benefits' will tell you that 'it's cool' ,'it's commitment-free', 'it's sweet' ...bla bla bla... Its probably true...for them. Me?? I believe in commitment !! because believe it or not, one person is bound to get attached AND hurt at the end of the day. Besides that, don't you even value your friendship with the other person enough to be commited if you do have a relationship? (food for thought).
             Well, like I said, its just my opinion. I believe in commitment, LOVE, friendship. I also believe that all three should be respected and extolled. I love my friends, male and female and I wouldn't joke with their feelings WITH or without their consent!!! I value them too much to want to jeopardize our friendship.

P.S If you love doing friends with benefits, issokay. Just DON'T suggest it to me. You have been warned. Hehe.

My Neighbor

                        
      She is the twin of trouble
      They possess identical features
      She personifies nosy
      The queen of gossip she is
      She knows EVERYONE
      Befriends all
      Hers is a sad story


      Her children,
      Gluttons and 'walk-abouts' is what they have become
      Her husband,
      Like her he has become
      A fool for all seasons.
      Oh what a home she has!
      In great need of prayers...


     Her tales fill the streets
     The older women regard her with deep scorn
     Knowledge of her ways is an open secret
     Whispers here... Whispers there
     Some pray for change
     Some pray she pays for her crime against womanhood
     But she remains stupid, ignorant of her crime...


      She is my neighbor
      A disgrace to womanhood
      Source of shame to her generation
      What do I pray for??
       CHANGE!!!
      I only hope it's not too late...
     At least for her innocent children.



    
    

Things About Me

This is my first post and I really hope you find it enlightening. Its things about me-basically things i love, hate, do, and people i like. They're randomly arranged though.
1. I'm 16 at the time of writing this #sweetsixteen :)
2. One of my names is Ihunda, however it is not on my birth certificate. No one ever uses it, lol.
3. I got this idea of writing things about me from Sonia Osi.
4. I love reading. I've been reading for as long as I can remember.
5. I love writing. I've just never been brave enough to complete any work or show it. x_x. I also like to read my work over and over again. :D
6. I am a Jehovah's witness. Its not just my religion, its who I am. I am a really spiritual person and I would do anything to please God. P.S I'm not a fanatic, lol.
7. I love my friends and family and I have to say they're simply the best!!!...<3
8. I think I'm the most trusting person you'll ever meet.  Its my biggest weakness.
9. I have a really good relationship with food and sleep, although I'm still trying to figure out which should come first...lol. I love cooking and I'm a pretty good cook (endorsed by my mother ;))
10. My favorite authors are all women - Mary Higgins-Clark, Danielle Steel and Barbara Taylor Bradford...I'm not prejudiced though. I read John Grisham. lol.
11. I love Bill Clinton and Barack Obama.
12. I love Beyonce. I think she's amazing!!!. I really don't get why people think she's fake. Alicia Keys and Chris Brown are like my favorite singers. <3.
13. I've never listened to Adele. No reason.
14. I love music as you might already be able to tell.:)
15. I cried when Michael Jackson died. :(
16. I cry when I'm angry or frustrated.
17. I DON'T SWEAR.
18. I'm an awww... person. :)
19. Notwithstanding number 18, i'm a total Nigerian- i say eyaa...,shey, sha...etc
20. I love children. I want to be a paediatrician.
21. I love HUGS!!!
22. I think i'm the biggest grey's anatomy fan alive!
23. I love jeans. I really don't like skirts but I love dresses.
24. My favorite colors are purple and green.
25. I CAN'T  chat or text without smileys.
26. I love ice-cream!!! (and gala and caprisonne).
27. I like cute underwear as opposed to sexy.
28. My favorite scent right now is 212 splash by Carolina Herrera.
29. I'm not brave enough to keep a diary, i'm scared someone will read it.
30. I love TWITTER!!!...It gives me an opportunity to write.
31. I hate it when people leave doors open.
32. I dislike people who aren't straightforward.
33. I love taking pictures.
34. I love to dress up. I'm a total girl!!!. Tried to be a tomboy once...#epicfail.
35. I LOVE A LOT!!!.
36. I really like my phone, its rare. Its a nokia 6700 slide.
37. My mum is like the sister i never had.
38. My favorite disney princesses are Jasmine and Ariel.
39. Grammer and spelling mistakes 'chook' my ears and eyes. LOL.
40. I'm glad i did this!!! :D

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